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Oh no, an own goal!

General, Networking Expert

22 November 2010 | 5 Comments

In networking, it is absolutely essential that our every move and action is seen with a positive light, and is seen as genuinely adding value to whatever situation there is.

In a series of e-mails that were passing through among members of a BNI group in preparation for their upcoming Guest Day, there was one that was offside. In fact, you could almost say that it was an own goal!

However, let’s look at some of the positive ones:

‘I have 4 guests visiting and their names are……’

To which, another member added up to the thread saying:

‘I have 3 guests, and their names are ………’

Then there were a few more, and my favourite was this message, ‘Let’s be ready for a great “Giver’s Gain” meeting.’

I tell you, I was so inspired until another member in this group said this: ‘I will be away till Thursday. Sorry’. You see how this type of statement over an e-mail can be an anti-climax to the energy or excitement the other members could have built on till now?

So, in networking, always score to inspire, add value to your colleagues. At any cost, don’t score an own goal.

Fair enough?


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5 Responses on “Oh no, an own goal!”

  1. riyazadmin says:

    This article was previously known as ‘Why score an own goal?’

  2. Dan Garlick says:

    I like it Riyaz. I see it all the time! Love the description.

  3. riyazadmin says:

    Hopefully not too often, Dan. :-)

  4. Prudence Loh says:

    Just not thinking at all.. I totally agree that such statements should not be mentioned at all… others like.. I have no referrals today…or.. I don’t want any more business this month….

  5. muruges says:

    Yes Prudence, just to add few more statements which should not be mentioned during the meeting. “I was absent last week”, “I was a member of BNI” …………

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