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The three most dangerous words

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18 November 2010 | 0 Comments

What are the three most dangerous words in the English language?

I did a poll on Facebook and received the following responses: ‘it doesn’t matter’, ‘I don’t care’, ‘I don’t know’, ‘I am sorry’, ‘I love you’, ’screwed for life’, ‘wtf’, ‘on the way’, ‘it’s your fault’.

Yes, all appear to be right, though I am not sure of:

‘I love you’ : I think these 3 words combined are beautiful. To express love and be able to continously express love is a wonderful thing. And to all my readers, thank you, and I love you all.

‘I am sorry’ : Actually, these combination of words are the most powerful words in the English language. To acknowledge a mistake and extend an apology or seeking for forgiveness is very powerful and very few people have the courage to do it. For example, it doesn’t take courage to go to war. Rather it takes hatred or the feeling of hate. Rather, to have peace, plenty of courage is needed. Likewise, saying, ‘I am sorry’ for any mistakes is not a sign of weakness, rather a sign of great courage to bring a particular relationship ahead.

So, me thinks, the three most dangerous words in the English Language are: I know that.

When someone asserts that they know something, unless they have been using the knowledge, then it’s is pointless. Further, it’s dangerous when anyone says, ‘i know that’, then their minds are closed for intake of new knowledge on the subject. This person will then stop listening, stop understanding, and stop asking the right questions.

In various areas in our lives, money, business, health, relationships, spirituality, it is essential that we have the right attitude to keep knowing, rather than closing our minds by saying, ‘i know that’. How many times we have heard people responding to let’s say, ‘oh it’s so easy to make profits on the stock market!’, then if someone asks, ‘how do you do that?’ then it’s the right attitude and it opens a conversation to learn more. If the response had been, ‘I know that’ then there’s no room for that conversation to learn, understand or discover further.

Last week, I had someone send me an e-mail asking some questions. So, I requested a conversation to discuss, and when we did, and when I attempted to explain the answer to the question she had raised in her e-mail to me the previous week, she bluntly mentioned the three most dangerous words, ‘I know that, lah‘ Well I suppose we’ll discount the ‘lah’ which is a Malaysian thing in daily conversations.

So, I asked her, ’since you already knew, why did you ask’?

To seek further clarification? To waste my time? or to annoy? And then she went on with some other mumbo jumbo that since I didn’t answer her question, then she’ll seek help elsewhere. But hello, you asked me a specific question and I gave you a specific response.

Guess some people will never get it. If indeed I had misunderstood the question, then have the courage to say, ‘may I clarify my question to you?’

Gosh… must be lucky week: I normally meet an idiot a week, but this past week has been special. I met four!

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